On the Ledge (so to speak)

 

Some days ago I woke up feeling like my normal self.  It was short lived but nice just the same.  I have been missing in action for quite some time.  Invisible to the world.  Being a caregiver took up so much of my time (no complaints) and the felt the care of I giving became insufficient for my husband went on to glory days.  Just like a plant I was continually watering and accidently drowned.  It felt as if my good intentions went to waste.

Shortly after I awoke I realized it was my husband’s birthday tomorrow and I needed to get flowers to put on his gravesite.  Plastic flowers because people will not let the real one stay in place.  Who robs a departed soul? People who have no soul I assume.  Then I began to cry, sob uncontrollably because he should not be there.  Not in the ground and definitely not in that location.  He should still be here with me and our family.  I made the wrong decision.  A decision I can not change.  A decision that was only mines to make.  A decision I did not have time to fully consider.  Ultimately a decision I had no control over.  God had all the control over the ultimate situation.  But I still felt that in some way I was to blame.

So today here I sit, on the ledge, writing about how I feel.  It is not my first letter.  I’ve written plenty to God, my husband and to myself  looking for both questions and answers.  I get answers but still I move in and out of acceptance like I change underwear.  Everyday is a new reality.  So how do I keep getting back to the first day over and over again?

Plain and simple.  Doubt.

It does not matter whether it is weakness, fear, feelings of defeat, loneliness, etc… The enemy will use your despair to defeat you where he can.

This is when I started to cry and moan and I prayed to the Holy Spirit to help me and comfort me.  Romans 8:26-27 says “the Spirit helps us in our weakness.  We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groans that words we can not express.  And he who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for the saints in accordance with God’s will.

I know it is true because I quickly and quietly get back to the place of acceptance.  Over the last few months I have asked the Spirit to quiet my thoughts, help me find peace, and whatever else I consciously and unconsciously asked for and it was given to me.  God’s love and concern for me never wavers.  He is restoring me back to the path he placed me on some time ago.  He tells me I am redeemed.  I do not need to be on this ledge for he has a purpose for me.  A purpose far beyond my reach.  A plan that I have been seeking validating for.

Well Wonderers I am here to tell you God has already validated you.  His grace is more than sufficient.  Have faith in his promises.  Love life, love yourself and be grateful for your family and friends.  Speak with kind words and with positivity.  What you put out in the universe manifests itself.  God only wants what is best for you.

Until we meet again keeping looking for the wonders of life and thanks for perusing.

It’s So Complicated – Mundy Madness

Hello Wonderer.

Do you ever wonder why things have to be so difficult?  What can possibly be hard about purchasing a trash can and then use it correctly?  Probably nothing in your household but in mines – madness!

I don’t know why in this day and time you have to touch the top of the trash can.  In my day we had to take trash outside and pick up the lid and place it back down, make sure it was on tight before we came in the house.  My jokers have it so easy if they could just figure it out, they should never have to touch the lid.  I have purchased several brands of trash cans over the years.  Ones that flips up.  They don’t work because somebody never sees the can is full and leaves it open smelling the house up with garbage.  Swings open.  No because everyone had to touch the lid leaving some residue that just makes the can look nasty.  I had pedestal to open the tops.  But someone used their super human strength and breaks off the pedestal and so on and so on and so on,  None of these have worked.  Thirty three years of searching for the perfect can.  I just gave up.

Well I thought I found it.  My friend has an automatic trash can.  I was at her house having a coffee break when her grandson walked up to the can and wait for it….it opened and he put his thrash in it and then it closed.  WOW!  He didn’t touch it any where.  It just opened as if he mentally suggested – open sesame!  For two hours I watch her family navigate around the can tossing, scraping, even spit trash into the can.  I was impressed.  I had to have that trash can.  I was too ashamed to ask her where it came from but I knew Goggle would know.  He sent me to Amazon and I purchased a NineStars Electronic Stainless Steele can that came with a bonus can.  Two for the price of one.  Impressive, I know right!  I even additionally purchased the adaptor because I’ve seen this baby in action and I knew it was a keeper.  Shouldn’t have to waste batteries on this life changer.  I had to wait a couple of days for it but I was so excited i went to the store and purchased a rug to go under it.

  
When it came I set it up immediately, prancing around the house like it was Christmas. Days went by and my hopes were slowing dashing. Somebody can’t get it to open.  They stand in front of it waving their hands over it, gives up and pushes the backup button because they couldn’t wait a second.  Everyone can’t change the bag properly.  There happens to be a ring inside the can that you wrap the bag around so it doesn’t show on the outside.  Someone occasionally opens it with their hands and leaves it open all night.  I’ve even witnessed the can opening and close before the person let go of the trash and it hit the lid as if the person was stammering o op open pen ses sa meeee!  Damn, what’s a girl to do?

Titus, My only smart guy can open the can with no problems.  He stands in front of it, waits, and when it opens gets his paper towels and let’s it close.  At night he throws them around and leaves the mess all over the floor.

That’s right Wonderers, only the dog can do it!

The search is back on!  I guess my mom was right, the trash can must go outside for sanity to remain inside.

Thanks for perusing and good night.

What day are we on? 25 Days of Christmas Crafts

Wonderers 

I had to put on the break in the midst of my run.  Why?  Because the hubby planned a surprise marriage renewal and that took me away from it all.  I’ll post the ceremony in another blog.

But for Day 10 Telefora gave me a grand ideal.  My sister sent me a floral arrangement and from that style I made a few more.  Wonders did you know you could get discarded pine tree pieces from Home Depot for free?  Me neither.  I went prepared to pay for them but left with enough for the whole neighborhood to use.  That along with a Dollar Tree floral arrangement I came out with this.

   Theirs
  Mines 
Day 11

Jada Bug and I made candy trees.  This took all day.  

   
 
Day 13. Donut trees for the hospital.
Day 15 Aromatherapy from the left over tree limbs.  The smell of pine is in the air!

 
The last 7 days of baking, and baking and candy making!

   
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Day 20 Sewing gifts of anything Kerrie wants to make!

  
Day 21 putting the final touch of whimsical Christmas wonder.

   
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Merry Christmas from my family to all of you!
   

The Boy Did It

Wonderers:

Remember last year when I told you guys about Alex auditioning to get into an art program and not placing because he didn’t follow instructions on realism.  Well this year the criteria added a new category – one piece of your choice.  All the face to face audition pieces had to be realistic.  The boy was convinced he didn’t make it in because he was last to audition and was only in there 5 minutes.  It was a sad ride home so in Grandmom fashion I said to him, ” We are not meant to win everything and we are not meant to lose everything.  Either way, I am proud of you for completing the process.”  My thoughts on it was maybe they didn’t waste time on him because they had already accepted him.  I covered all bases just in case.

Well the boy did it!  Would you like to see his additional entry pieces that I think swayed the judges?

 
Well done!  He even signed his name on it! 

Like I said, I’m proud of him!

8 Days of 25 Days of Christmas

Wonderers:

My Christmas scene looks a little confused because I have this picture next to it that doesn’t look like Christmas and with this orange wall I’m thinking something has got to change.  I can not take the picture down so my first thought was to use this chalkboard tablecloth I purchased for thanksgiving but didn’t get to use to cover it.  But when I opened the package, the tablecloth was a better quality than I expected so I decided to use it for New Year’s Eve.  Wouldn’t that be great to have all your family and friends sign off on your table cloth.  I have mostly artistic friends so I’m sure it will be interesting.  You might want to hurry to Walmart and get yours they are half price from $3.97.

  
Ok.  For $1.00 I went to Dollar General and purchased another tablecloth.

  
I thought the yellow would pop off the Orange wall.  Nena and I taped it to the painting frame and this is what we got.

   
DDidn’t like the bow so I changed it.  The final result. 
 
 Check that one off the list.

Day 4 of 25 Days of Christmas Crafts

Hello Wonderers:

Now this may not seem to be a craft to some but for someone who used to just put a card into an envelope, scribble out an address and lick on a stamp, this is definitely a craft to me.

Today I am making envelopes for my hand made cards and liners for the store bought cards.  I scored some really neat paper.  And yes Kerrie it is only wrapping paper, not paper from PaperSource which is fastly becoming my favorite paper craft store.  That’s my special occasion paper when I only care enough to send the very best!  But for Christmas cards Wonderers I have to be pretty and practical because the recipients only care what’s inside the envelope, the money.

Now isn’t this paper cool or what 

 

All you need is

A pencil, double sided tape, scissors, envelopes and the paper of course. 

  
Trace your envelope on the back of your paper and cut.  Fit it inside of your envelope and tape the backside of both your paper and the envelope. And your done.

  

I went to YouTube and watched a tutorial on how to make an envelope without glue or tape by WatchingWoolykal.  

Wonderful stuff.

Well Wonderers I have a lot more to do so I’ll say goodnight and thanks for perusing.